Having just completed a course on Positive Intelligence (PQ) the word vulnerability has arisen in my learning once again.
I must have watched the Brene Brown TED talk on vulnerability (currently nearly 62 million views) over 20 times, each time I hear something different.
“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path"
PQ taught me that our saboteurs (think chimp paradox/little voice) stop us being vulnerable and without vulnerability we can’t be authentic. We are always trying to be what we ‘should’ be - or what we think our parents / teachers / loved one’s think we ‘should’ be - there's a lot of assumptions there! What if they're not true? What if you're OK just as you are?
I discovered that the reasons I’ve made damaging life decisions in my past was through lack of self-awareness and the inability to be vulnerable. PQ teaches us:
"Saboteurs start off as our guardians to help us survive the real and imagined threats to our physical and emotional survival as children. By the time we are adults, we no longer need them, but they have become invisible inhabitants of our mind"
‘Goodness’ as one client said to me ‘Why don’t we learn this stuff at school!’
If I’d only known I could be me and that was enough!
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